Wait! Why Did You Swipe Left? (Author Interview)



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Wait! Why Did You Swipe Left?  looks like a great guide.  Can you tell us a little about it?

Wait! Why Did You Swipe Left? Is a guide designed to help women navigate the world of online dating. Whether you’re brand new to online dating, or you’ve been on dating apps and sites for years, this is the book for you.

 

Any plans to turn it into a series?

We are currently in the process of writing a book for men. The door is certainly always open to continue writing dating guides because online dating is so broad. We continue to learn new things about it every day. We also want to open the book up to different age groups. A series is definitely in the cards for us.

 

What inspired the idea for your book?

I started online dating after I separated from my daughter’s father after over 20 years together. My cousin was the one who introduced me to the world of online dating. She had been on dating apps for over 5 years and hadn’t had any success finding a partner. Without really understanding what I was getting into, I looked over her profile and realized she wasn’t being completely honest about who she was. Instead, she was catering to what she thought men wanted to hear. Since then, I have taken an interest in helping people fix their online dating profiles and open themselves up to dating different kinds of people. My cousin, as well as some of our other clients, have since found success and married their soulmates.

 

How did you come up with the title to your book?

I knew that I wanted something eye-catching, but also relatable. My main question when doing research for the book was why men were swiping left. I think that’s ultimately what women want to know when logging into their dating apps. Many of our clients assume that men are the problem, and don’t want to date them because they are somehow undesirable. This is not at all the case. Many times the problem is that women are advertising what they think men want to see on their profiles versus being true to themselves. 

 

What will readers get out of your book?

Readers will get the facts as to why men are swiping left on their profiles. We have included quotes from different men detailing the things they don’t like featured on women’s profiles. We also provide sample images of the kinds of pictures women should NOT include in their profiles. We knew we wanted to be specific and provide women with all the advice they need to be able to refresh their dating profiles and get the results they want.

 

What part of the book was the most fun to write?

I loved being able to share my own voice with readers. The book has a “tough love” sort of approach, that I think a lot of people need in order to see reason. I wrote in a very relaxed way because I wanted the book to feel like readers were talking to a friend. There’s no need to make things difficult to understand. I wanted to get straight to the point with my readers.

 

Did anything stick out as particularly challenging when writing Wait! Why Did You Swipe Left?

The most challenging part of the writing process was making sure that I didn’t offend anyone. We never wanted to discourage people, but rather lift them up. We chose to provide different male perspectives so that women could better understand what might be confusing information on their profiles. At the end of the day, there is no right and wrong, but there is a strong consensus as to why men swipe left.

 

What do you like to do when not writing?

We love consulting with our clients and hearing their unique dating stories. We don’t consider our job a success until our client has reached their dating goals.

 

Where can readers find out more about your work?

We are on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok. We have also started a podcast called, “Mom, You’re Not Funny” where my daughter and I speak candidly about some of our life experiences. Despite being newer to the podcasting space, we have enjoyed sharing our stories with our listeners and hope that we can help others find their happiness as well.