It'll Happen By 30 (Author Interview)

How long did it take you to write It’ll Happen by 30?

I did not originally set out to write It’ll Happen. The book actually started off as a series of daily journal entries. I used writing as a way to help me cope with the grief I felt after having suffered the loss of our daughter, Angel Grace, after trying so long and hard to finally conceive her, our first child. When finally ready to try again, I continued writing as a way to cope, express my feelings, and chronicle the journey. So, all in all, it took about 7 years to write, so to speak.


What inspired you when writing It’ll Happen by 30?

The thought of helping to motivate and help support other men, women, and families by sharing my story was the ultimate and initial inspiration I felt as I wrote the book. I felt I did not go through this just to bottle up the experience.  Someone could benefit from my/our experience. People that are suffering from Infertility need to know they are not alone, they are not crazy, and their feelings are valid because someone else experienced it as well. I was also inspired more and more as I wrote the book because I felt if more information on people’s experiences with Infertility are available, it could increase awareness of the crippling problem that 1 in 8 couples face. That would hopefully bring forth more help and support for everyone involved.


How did you come up with the title to your book?

Funny enough, as I worked with my publisher, Dr. Julia Royston of BK Royston Publishing, during the compilation process, we often talked about what my next steps were during the various stages of my life. I always talked about what I planned to do by a certain time or age. As I recounted my life goals during our talks, I was still experiencing infertility. I kept repeating and making note that I wasn’t too concerned, thus staying focused on other goals, because It’ll Happen by 30. That was actually a name for a chapter/section and it eventually stuck as the book title.


What will readers get out of your book?

Readers will get a raw, unfiltered, and genuine experience of what Infertility, loss, support, and the quest to start a family really looks like from a first-hand account of someone who actually lived it. They will get the good, bad, and ugly of the IVF process. They also get the unexpected ups and downs so many endure during this process before, during, and after navigating through Infertility. The readers will also understand infertility from the male’s perspective as well. It was important to me to include that as oftentimes the men get overshadowed. They are equally as important to the entire journey as the women are.


What part of the book was the most fun to write?

There were a couple of fun parts of the book I enjoyed writing. It was fun to write about my visits to the clinic on certain and numerous occasions. I looked forward to my appointments because I would get to see and interact with the staff at my doctor’s office.  They were just awesome to me and always did their best to make me feel normal, optimistic, and important. It was also fun to write about the ability to have and actually partake in my very own baby shower. That was important to me because I thought that was out of the cards for me and wondered if I’d ever have one.


What was your hardest scene/section to write?

Hands down the worst section to write was my experience leading up to and having to deliver my daughter, Angel Grace. The single most difficult day of my life.


What do you like to do when not writing?

I actually love to watch movies, preferably action and/or comedies. I enjoy relaxing with my husband and children either at home or somewhere outside. I really get satisfaction from being around other women, namely my sisters, nieces, moms, friends, and all those close to me. I find peace in going to church or doing so virtually. When I am feeling conflicted or unclear, a gentle reminder of my faith gets me through and helps me regroup! I enjoy teaching and talking to others as well. If I could help people get encouraged and motivated to be the best version of themselves by helping them learn and believe in themselves through advocacy each and every day, I would remain a very happy lady.

Where can readers find out more about your work?

The best way to keep up with me and follow my journey to help is via my site:; Instagram: @itllhappenbook; Twitter: @LadyMarDuro


Thank you for the opportunity to interview and learn more about my book.