Survive Then Live: The Patience Carter Story (Author Interview)

Survive Then Live looks like an incredible personal story. How long did it take you to write it?   

It took me two years for me to write this book. There are deeply personal moments that took a long time to feel comfortable with sharing with the world.

What will readers get out of your book?    

This book isn’t your typical book about survival. Readers will receive key lessons I learned at the end of each chapter, as well as inspirational original poems, but my story is main focus. My journey to healing had ups and downs, the entire way through. Regardless of what I looked like on TV, my journey wasn’t pretty, or perfect. And the book is brutally honest, in order to teach readers that running away from their trauma will never heal it. I show readers that they have to face their challenges head on. Otherwise, it’ll keep resurfacing at the worst times.

What inspired you when writing Survive Then Live?    

My pain inspired me to write Survive Then Live. I was suffering, I was  screaming inside, but no one could hear me. I felt like I had to keep a smile on my face, in order to give hope to people experiencing similar challenges. But the truth is, I was hurting all the time. I wanted to tell my real story, not the one I thought people wanted to hear. As I was writing, I realized that my real story was way more powerful.

When did you decide to become a writer?

Writing was huge part of my survival growing up. I was a really sad kid. My mother wasn’t in my life, she disappeared when I was two years old. The feeling of abandonment hovered over me throughout my entire childhood. I was lucky to have a loving grandmother, but when she passed, I shuffled from one toxic environment to another. I was often silenced as a child, my pain didn’t matter to anyone. So writing was the only way I could speak my truth. Writing was the only was I could escape my surroundings. Writitng gave me a voice.

When writing Survive Then Live did anything stand out as particularly challenging?   

The biggest challenge I faced when writing, Survive Then Live, was opening up. When you’re so used to putting on a façade, and pretending to be perfect, you forget how to be real. Being truthful, and real, becomes terrifying. Because you’re afraid of what people will think or say. Nevertheless, I’m glad I pushed through.

What do you like to do when not writing?

When I’m not writing I like to sing. I create orginal songs a lot. Singing is also very therapeutic for me. I like to create songs that are inspiring, and when I sing them I encourage myself.

Where can readers learn more about you and your books?
Readers can follow me on Instagram @PaeCarter, and Twitter @Patience326_. They can also visit the book’s website at